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Self confidence has been a huge issue for me all my life, and partly I think it’s because I’m a girl.
Why do I blame all my security issues on my gender?
Well although it’s not 100% based on gender, being born a girl really doesn’t help me in the confidence stakes. Why? Well:
- We get exposed to pictures of perfect women all day everyday and expect ourselves to look airbrushed and made up when we roll out of bed
- Boyfriends expect us to fart rainbows and it’s also supposed to smell like flowers
- We enormous pressure to be a great daughter, girlfriend, student, career women, home maker, friend etc. you name it, we create this perfect ideal. Guys just need to have a great career and make lots of money – we need to do that and raise a family and be like SUPER MUM. If you don’t want to have kids you got it a bit easier 🙂 Well, actually you’ll need to fend off family requests for grandchildren.
- We have to put up with tremendous amounts of criticism from EACH OTHER
Ok I’ll going to stop my list now because I really just want to address the last point. I think it’s hard enough that we put so much pressure on ourselves about how we look and how smart we are, and how lovable we are for other people, but to then to put up with criticisms from each other I think is just not helpful.
We have a hard enough time dealing with confidence issues ourselves, I guess we should really help each other right?? Not make it worse
Feel free to disagree with me but I’m going to keep talking anyways.
To be honest I do it as well. I’m sure we all have. Had a girl walk past that may look perfectly fine but we comment something like
“Omg how big are her legs”
“Did you see her hair – it was so gross”
I think it’s so natural for us to say things like that, and be so detailed that every little thing is picked up. It can be something so small but glaringly obvious when critical eyes are upon you.
Which really adds to me being so self conscious!!
Have you ever walked down the street and just thought, omg they are totally staring at my pimple/fat anything/messy anything – whatever it is. And luckily most of the time people probably are too busy thinking about themselves they don’t notice.
BUT THAT ONE TIME someone mentions it to you, it’s like you’re an emotional paranoid wreck, well for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE about that one thing.
Add all these moments together, and well we have this huge building list of securities that stick with us, and are so hard to shake off.
Also you know what makes it worse??
When you do it to other girls.
I think the more time you spend saying these things to other girls it makes you just as paranoid for yourself. It’s like that effect when cheaters get really possesive and jealous because they know they can cheat themselves so they assume their partner is. I think it is the same thing for criticisms and same for negative thoughts.
The more you let it happen even to other people in your life the more it consumes you, it’s a horrible bad habit. If people ever tell you it’s ok “to let it all out” Just know that don’t indulge in it too much or it’ll become a habit and that negativity will last longer then it should.
Spend more time giving other’s compliments.
Spend more time loving others 🙂
If you do this more it’ll come back to you, trust me. That or you’ll at least stop thinking about all the negative things about yourself because you’re too busy complimenting other people 🙂 I hope that helps??
This is my monthly emotional rant I think 🙂
Also want to say I’m sorry to neglect you blog readers for my YouTube channel, in fact I’m much more awkward on video and when I talk out loud. So I’ll go back to typing it here for some of my future real-talks. I feel I have much more freedom to think and I also find it easier to communicate my thoughts.
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